What is Life, pt. 1
What is life? What does it mean to be human? What are emotions, actions, thoughts?
Why are we all here? Is there a reason?
I started HappyMadSad thinking about mental health, but over time, and as my own mental health has changed, evolved, and regressed, I’m realizing that mental health is really about life itself. It’s about learning how to live: how to cope, how to heal, and eventually, if desired, how to thrive.
Each of us was born into a body, into a family, into a society and a culture. We didn’t get to choose the nurture or the nature part of our lives. Now that we’re here, we have the power of choice, but we still didn’t get to choose which choices would be harder to make and which would be easier.
Life is difficult... for all of us. There is only so much we have control over, our influence only goes so far. We all have bad days whether it’s because of anxiety, depression, self-doubt, facing cruelty or suffering in the world, regret, shame, guilt, physical pain, loss, and so on. It is not always easy to be here. So it’s important to say - that’s okay. You are not less than for being exhausted, or sad, or hurt. And your difficult feelings do not negate your moments of joy, love, and deep gratitude.
I am a strong believer in the fact of change. Change is inevitable. It’s the one thing we can count on. Change can be terrifying when we are doing good, but it can also be so relieving when we are doing bad. Nothing on this planet is stagnant, or stuck - ever.
Today, I chose to write about life, because it is filled with so many complexities that don’t get acknowledged enough. How often do any of us get a chance to sit and marvel (or grumble) at the messiness of being alive? How often do we have the capacity to zoom out of our immediate mind frame and look at this full picture?
So if it feels right, take a deep breath, take a look around, and give yourself a pat on the back. You are here, and you’ve been doing it, you’re alive despite the inevitably difficult parts of our existence and consciousness. That will always be an accomplishment - even when it doesn’t feel like it.